Resources for Talking with Children About the Tragedy


Two sites from the National Association of School Psychologists which may be of some help today in your school.  Children and Responding to National Disaster Information for Children (for educatorsHelping Children Cope with Tuesday's Act of Terrorism

In Southern New Jersey
American Red Cross Cross
1 (800) GIVE LIFE

These are general resources that can be used by parents, teachers, and other caregivers to help children through these difficult days.

The following websites have useful information:

*The Parent Center:

*American Academy of Pediatrics:

*American Psychological Association: APA's Helping web-site includes a web page entitled How Therapy Helps: Managing Traumatic Stress: Tips for Recovering From Disasters and Other Traumatic Events that contains information on What happens to people after a disaster or other traumatic event?  How do people respond differently over time? How should I help myself and my family?  How do I take care of childrens special needs? When should I seek professional help? and How may I use APA as a resource?

*American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry:

Some general advice from the experts includes:

1. Continuously reassure your children that you will help to keep them safe.

2. Turn off the TV.  Overexposure to the media can be traumatizing.  If your older children are watching the news, be sure to watch with them.

3. Be aware that your child's age will affect his or her response.  Adolescents in particular may be hard hit by these kinds of events.  Obtaining counseling for a child or adolescent soon after a disaster may reduce long-term effects.

4. Calmly express your emotions, but remember that a composed demeanor will provide a greater sense of security for your child.

5. Give your children extra time and attention and plan to spend more time with your children in the following months.

6. Let your children ask questions, talk about what happened, and express their feelings.

7. Play with children who can't talk yet to help them work out their fears and respond to the atmosphere around them.

 8. Keep regular schedules for activities such as eating, playing and going to bed to help restore a sense of security and normalcy.

9. Consider how you and your child can help.  Children are better able to regain their sense of power and security if they feel  they can help in some way.
 

Resources For Teachers, Parents And All Adults With Children In Their Lives

*National Association of School Psychologists (NASP)
NASP and its National Emergency Assistance Team (NEAT) have gathered practical strategies and coping techniques that can be easily understood and used by parents, teachers, mental health professionals and members of the faith-based community to assist children as they try to understand and deal with the terrifying events that have taken place in New York, Washington, D.C., and Pennsylvania.   NASP has also posted a special set of disaster counseling resources at this site. This includes a link to the handout for parents entitled "Disaster: Helping Children Cope". 

*Educators for Social Responsibility (ESR)
A leader in supporting schools, families, and children. ESR is recognized for its role in social and emotional learning, character education, conflict resolution, violence prevention, and intergroup relations. 
Suggested Lessons for Teachers Following the Attacks on the World Trade Center and the Pentagon can be found along with other materials.

*United States Department of Education
USDOE has a webpage dedicated to information and resources for parents and schools related to the terrorist attacks.  It includes many links to organizations with more to offer.

*Center for Mental Health Services (CMHS)
CMHS is part of the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) of the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (USDHHS).  CMHS has a menu of relevant documents which can be downloaded from its web site: "After Disaster: A Guide for Parents and Teachers," "How to Help Children After a Disaster," "After a Disaster: What Teens Can Do," "After a Disaster: A Guide for Parents and Teachers," "Older Adults, Mental Health Aspects of Terrorism," and "Disaster Counseling."  Most of these articles are also available (from that site) in Spanish versions.
For those in need of counseling, the CMHS Mental Health Services Locator can provide links to the nearest mental health organizations as well as addresses, phone numbers and information on services available.

*PrepareRespondRecover
This group's mission is to provide safety planning and disaster response and recovery support to individuals and small-to-midsize businesses.  Right now their site is dedicated primarily to information and ideas to help deal with the WTC disaster.  Here is what they say:  "On September 11, 2001, the United States was attacked by faceless, unnamed terrorists. Although our work focuses on natural and man-made disasters, the effects of terrorism are equally C if not more C devastating. If you have any specific questions or need support in any way, please let us know by visiting our Help Request Webform."  This site has some great developmentally appropriate activities for teachers and caregivers.

*National Education Association (NEA)
NEA's web page, "Helping Families and Children Cope with this National Tragedy,"  includes separate sections on "Managing Stress Reactions," "Crisis Reaction," "Coping Strategies," and a "Stress Symptom Checklist."

*National Parent Teacher Association (PTA)
PTA has prepared a document - "Helping children cope with tragedy."  Links to other materials are also provided.

*The Learning Network
The Learning Network's  mission is to be an online consumer network of the world's best learning and information resources, personalized to help parents, teachers, and students of all ages take control of their learning and make it part of their everyday lives.  TeacherVision is the Internet's most popular teacher site for trusted online tools and resources that save time and make learning fun. Resources (hotlinks) have been added to address the issues raised by the September 11 events: Building a Better World;  Emotional Support; Creative Outlets; Background Information.

*National Center for PTSD (NCPTSD)
NCPTSD offers a wealth of information about post traumatic stress response including, "Terrorism And Children A Guide To How Children Of Different Ages Respond To Trauma," "How To Talk To Your Child About Terrorism," "What Parents Can Do," And "How Many Children Develop PTSD."

For those of you returning to school today I thought you might find the resources below useful to talking with your students and helping them deal with this crisis.  Please note that some of the sites may not load quickly do to the increased traffic that many news sites are experiencing.

*CNN Education Site (provides advice from counselors)

*New York Times - Learning Network (lesson plans that go along with current news articles)

*Education Week - School and Crisis Resources

*National Education Association - Crisis Communication Guide and Toolkit

In response to our recent tragedy,  here are some thoughts for helping both children and adults deal with this situation.

1. Use extreme sensitivity when discussing the terrorist attacks.  Depending on the age of the child, discuss the incidents at their cognitive level. Preschoolers might not understand the final nature of the tragedy.

2.  Talk about what's real and what's fantasy.  They may have difficulty conceptualizing what happened. Talk about things like a pet dying and not coming to life again or a plant or flower dying. Books you can share include "The Dead Bird" by Margaret Wise Brown, "The Tenth Good Thing about Barney" by Judith Viorst, "Nana Upstairs and Nana Downstairs" by Tomie dePaola, "Sweet, Sweet Memory" by Jacqueline Woodson and "Granddad Bill's Song" by Jane Yolen.

With older children you might prefer to discuss the issue as a current event. Books to share include "One April Morning" by Nancy Lamb and "On the Wings of Peace" edited by Sheila Hamanaka.

Teachers might refer to "Learning the Skills of Peacemaking" by Naomi Drew or "Starting Small" from the Teaching Tolerance Project. Log onto http://www.unf.edu/~astomfay/indexnewsletters.htm to find newsletters and references for the classroom.

3. The events are quite violent. Watch television with children but  limit the amount of times they see today's events unfolding.  Excessive exposure to the events is not necessary. Discuss what has happened, no matter how long it takes. Listen carefully to what the child says. Your response will be based on what you've heard.  Be cautious, use common sense, and let the child know that it is difficult for adults, as well as children, to conceptualize and handle what has happened.

4. Allow children to grieve and participate as members of the community. Ask them to provide suggestions for preventing future incidents, and  invite them to join organized problem-solving efforts, such as a diversity group.

5. For teachers, these events are part of social studies. Most texts  focus on wars. We need to focus on the other side, talking to youngsters about peace education, peacemaking, conflict resolution, and peer mediation. We should talk about how this is done between individuals and among countries.

6. "Remember, respect is the cornerstone of all our interactions and behaviors. We acknowledge the dignity and worth of one another and strive never to diminish another by our conduct or our attitudes." (Source: Mariner H.S. in Everett, Washington)
 

The National Institute of Mental Health has a number of resources posted. One of the options is a
report entitled  "Helping Children and Adolescents Cope with Violence and Disasters". This report includes recent research findings related to counseling following a disaster.

*The Center for Mental Health Services has a menu of relevant documents. There you will find "After Disaster: A Guide for Parents and Teachers".  For those in need of counseling the CMHS Mental Health Services Locator can provide links to the nearest mental health organizations as well as addresses, phone numbers and information on services available: See Services
Locator.

*Seasame Street Workshop developed a website entitled Tragic Times, Healing Words with resources on helping children cope with disaster. The site was recommended as a useful tool for parents and teachers.

*EDUCATION DEPARTMENT RELEASES INFORMATION ON HOW TO HELP CHILDREN
UNDERSTAND THE TERRORIST ATTACKS. The United States Department of Education today released information on helping children understand the terrorist attacks.   "Suggestions for Adults: Talking and Thinking with Children About the Terrorist Attacks," "Suggestions for Educators: Meeting the Needs of Students," and a list of other resources are available.

The Center for Health and Health Care in Schools (CHHCS).  We have gathered a few resources that others have developed to assisthealth professionals help children, their families, and school staff cope with this week's tragedy. One of the resources is in Spanish.

*National Child Care Information Center (NCCIC)
NCCIC has put together a list of resources on "Helping Children Cope with Violence, Terrorism, and Grief" on its Web site

*UCLA School Mental Health Project / Center for Mental Health in Schools
For details on responding to crisis with children, see "Quick Find" on this website;  go to the "Center Response" section and scroll to "Crisis Prevention and Response." One of the things you will find cited is the resource "Responding to a Crisis at a School" which contains specific guidelines for responding and follow-up in the weeks to come. You can download this with a click and print off the relevant materials.  NOTE:  this site is non-traditional in that you link directly to the search page, rather than the more usual home page.  Nonetheless, there is a wealth of helpful material here, as well as technical assistance.

*Talking with Kids About Tough Issues
Talking with Kids teams up with Nickelodeon in a national initiative to support parent-child communication about "tough issues" like sex, violence, drugs and respect. The partnership kicks off with the release of data from a new survey of kids age 8-15 and their parents. This site focuses on the needs of parents and kids.  It has responded to the terrorist attacks with new materials and provides a wealth of resources, including possible questions and some thoughts in response. 

*KidsHealth
A wonderful site, which has a section, dedicated to the aftermath of the terrorist attack. From the site description:  "KidsHealth is one of the largest sites on the Web providing doctor-approved health information about children from before birth through adolescence. Created by the Nemours Foundation's Center for Children's Health Media, our mission is to provide the best children's health information on the Internet! KidsHealth has separate areas for kids, teens, and parents - each with its own design, age-appropriate content, and tone. There are literally hundreds of in-depth articles and features."

*Parents can find practical guidance, grade-specific information about their children's school experience, strategies to get involved with their children's learning, free email newsletters. FamilyEducation brings together leading organizations from both the public and private sectors to help parents, teachers, schools, and community organizations use online tools and other media resources to positively affect children's education and overall development.

*KIDSNET the educational non-profit clearing house of information on electronic media has posted a special Media Alert, "TV Helps Kids Deal with Terrorist Attacks" on the website.   To date six television networks have announced special programming or public service initiatives on-air and/or on-line that are specifically targeted to children and youth.  KIDSNET is a nationally recognized education and media resource that has, since 1985, encouraged medial literacy in young people and their families and a commitment to educational excellence in the media industry. 

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